Coffee with the County - Sowing Today for a Harvest Tomorrow
I recently had the privilege of assisting in the funeral of a community and church member I’ve known for many years. What made it sweet was that, not only did I know him and his wife, I also have known his daughter and his granddaughter for many years. It was a sweet time of reflection that the end of a life brings.
As I sat and listened to the numerous (and quite comical) stories about his life, a theme began to emerge for me. My friend was a decades-long farmer in our community, and he was known for his farm suspenders and his ag-centric adages. The pattern that was so intricately woven throughout every story was this firm belief and behavior in him that said: “When you’ve got a job to do, you just get up, and you do it.” That was his way of life–he inherently knew how to work hard and get the job done. And it was equally quite clear that he instilled that work ethic in his children, his grandchildren, and even his great-grandchildren who spoke about his life.
As does any funeral service for most folks, this one caught me hanging on these shared words most of the weekend that followed. I found myself pulling many nuggets of wisdom. They included:
1) We are fortunate for the farming community found in our midst.
2) We are fortunate to have an integral work ethic here that is, at times, hard to find in other communities.
3) We are fortunate to have men and women who understand and live out community–caring for those both within and outside of their families.
4) We are fortunate to have people here who teach the next generation, both through their words and their actions.
If you’ve read my column long, you’ve probably read a few articles around the idea of career readiness and career awareness, particularly for our next generation of workforce (i.e., our youth). As I often do (perhaps because of my line of work), I tie many life experiences back into this strategy, because our work is not linear or done singularly.
Agriculture is the undercurrent of our way of life here. From gardening to thousand-acre corn fields, we know how to sow and harvest our land. But where career preparedness meets the farming industry is in the people. It’s the “ole farmers” who carry the wisdom of sunbeat life and hundreds of hours of tractor-driving that trickle down into the next generation. While they may not realize it in the process, their actions, their responses, their words, and their gestures are teaching the young farmers and agriculturalists coming behind them in more ways than one.
This concept trickles right into every aspect of life, especially for those of us who have a younger generation following us (i.e., kids, grandkids, students, neighbors, nieces and nephews, or children of friends). Everything we do and say is teaching a lesson. So, how will we leave our legacy, and how will we choose to intentionally water the next generation?
The truth of the matter is, everyone’s a teacher, whether we own it or not. Everyone has a lesson to give, a life experience to share, or some words to depart. How can you invest by giving what you have? Here are a few tips to consider:
● Slow down. I bet if you take a few minutes every day to intentionally stop, breath deeply, and look around, you’ll find an opportunity to talk to someone you wouldn’t normally have time for. Who is that person (or persons)?
● Be willing to be the conversation-starter. The best way is to ask a genuine question. Enough of this shallow “How are you?” conversation. Ask a question that pulls back a layer, and be honestly willing to listen (and ask more questions!).
● Lend your experience. It won’t cost you a thing to share a story from your past. What happened, and what did you learn? Your experiences carry value. Share them before you get to the end of your life!
● Walk in relationships. I am who I am today because of people who saw something in me that I didn’t yet see in myself. They took me for car rides, they bought me coffee, they took me to lunch. All because they wanted to speak into and develop me. Find those around you who need someone to do the same, and then do it for them! Take them for a walk, have them over for dinner, or sit on the porch with them. Invest your time into another.
I will miss my friend. But what I will remember is how he encouraged, and he was willing to stop what he was doing to say hello and check in. When I left a conversation with this old farmer friend of mine, I felt empowered to take on the task at hand. Who can we give the gift of encouragement and development to today? Be like our farmers, and be willing to sow today for a harvest of next-generation workers and community members tomorrow.





