Coffee with the County - Gardening & My Grandma
We built our house in the middle of a rock garden. We didn’t know that, of course, when we put the plow to the soil with the intention of marking the boundaries for our first garden at the new place. Fortunately (or unfortunately for my husband), I just happened to be pregnant with our second child when the rock harvest really began. I recall sitting on a swing in the shade, watching my husband bend over countless times, digging up hand-sized stones from our ground. It was brutal work (and often very cumbersome in summer heat).
When we finally tilled through our garden to churn up the ground in preparation for seeds, we soon realized just how “rocky” our ground was. At that time, we had a back-tine tiller, and every five feet (literally!) we found ourselves turning off the machine to hammer out another stone lodged in the tines.
At one point, I had taken the role of tilling the garden–cleaning up the ground to prepare for new growth–and I grew so angry at the dang tiller that I forgot my surroundings. I was hot from the sun, and hot with frustration from the rock problem. I had a hammer and screwdriver in my pocket to alleviate the problem, tucking them back in my pocket only to pull them out again when I reached the next run down the garden’s length. I may or may not have chucked the hammer and screwdriver a time or two (a “you’re welcome” goes to our neighbors for the entertainment I provided that day!).
We are just about to start summer number four with our “rock garden.” While we still have many rocks in our soil, we have churned the dirt enough to mitigate the problem so that it is less painful. We are learning how to manage our rocks, though they are still there.
And that, really, is the definition of gardening isn’t it? Whether it’s rocks, weeds, or nosy plants creeping into their neighboring rows, there are always issues in the garden. That’s why offering oneself as a patient, consistent, and present tenderer is vital to its sustainability and growth.
Certainly I am no master gardener. When I consider that term, I think of my grandma. Her garden is–in its truest sense–an experience. She has grass-clipping-covered paths throughout the yard-sized garden, dotted with handmade signs which communicate what you might find throughout its expansive depth. From wildflowers to potatoes, sweet corn to herbs, and everything in between, her garden is home to it. My grandma is a lifelong gardener, full of stories and wisdom, and is always willing to share what it means to be a good gardener.
I am especially grateful for these stories and nuggets of truth, because they often translate into lifelong understanding. Tending to one’s soil takes patience, intentionality, and consistency. It often takes more than one person to maintain, and when watered and weeded, it bears the tastiest, prettiest, juiciest fruit. And if you’re really good at it, you’ll often have an overflowing bounty, with plenty to share with neighbors and friends. (Now, take this paragraph and replace “soil” with “life.” See how interchangeable it is?)
Gardening and my grandma have taught me much about life. I must admit that I do not jump with joy when it comes to weeding, but I do enjoy getting my hands dirty, and I love watching the process of growth unfold–both in the garden, and in life. To get to see a seed become sustenance for my family is a beautiful thing.
Eagerly, I’m waiting for the turn of the weather. It means that we’ll roll the tiller out of our shed, my kids (and probably the dog too) will run through the dirt and run over planted seeds with their bare feet, and we’ll begin watering in anticipation for buds to appear. We’ll restock our pantry and freezer, and we’ll see another year of harvest. Gardening is more than a hobby, it’s a lesson in growth, sustainability, and community. Happy gardening to all of my neighbors and LaGrange Countians…spring is right around the corner!
Did you know?
- The Purdue Extension offers a Master Gardener Program for gardening enthusiasts. The program equally serves as training and peer gardening circles as much as it serves as a volunteer pipeline to support the Purdue Extension’s home horticulture education in Hoosier communities. So far in 2025, 1,451 volunteers have given 16,738 hours, valued at $504,819.59! (Source: www.purdue.edu/sites/master-gardener) Interested in being a part of a gardening program like this one? Call Jeff Burbrink at the LaGrange County Purdue Extension for more information: 260-499-6334.