Better Late Than Never - Coffee with the County
I tend to be a realist in my worldview. I don’t like a lot of “fluff” and like to get to the point. But I’ll tell you what, when the “fluff” hits my heart just right, it’s on point.
I don’t really like Valentine’s Day and all the “fluff.” I have an incredible husband and partner of 10 years, yet we typically don’t “do” Valentine’s because, well, we’re cheap, and we aim to send our love spontaneously to the other throughout the year. But, in 2024, my husband came through and proved that he’s “my person.” An inside secret about me is that I am slightly obsessed with the old television show Golden Girls. It focuses on 4 older women who live together and “do life” together. I can sit and watch that show for hours on end with a lot of laughter (and full disclosure, I have binge watched the series at least 3 or 4 times now). One of the funniest characters is Rose Nyland, played by Betty White.
On Valentine’s Day in 2024, I got a text from my husband that said, “I got my love a dozen roses for Valentine’s Day.” (Perhaps you can see where this is going.) I thought the text was odd, because (1) we don’t typically get each other extravagant gifts on Valentine’s Day, and (2) we have agreed for 10 years now that James doesn’t get me flowers on these types of holidays (for various reasons). I walked into our kitchen on my lunch break that day, and found my husband on the couch, awaiting my arrival. On the counter in front of me was a waterless vase filled with a dozen miniature dowel rods, with the face of Rose Nyland taped on the top of each one. He got it right, and sent me the “fluff” in a way that hit just right. I laughed until I cried!
Valentine’s Day can drum up many different perspectives. I typically see those perspectives unfold in a few different ways (each perspective lovingly named by yours truly):
- The Lovey-Doveys: These are the people who LOVE to give gifts and receive gifts. Valentine’s Day is THEIR day, an opportunity to spend all the dollars and give all the things.
- The Realists: It’s me. I’m the realist. These are the people that don’t spend dollars on this day for multiple reasons: rebelling against the outlandish day, reserving their love for a spontaneous moment, or perhaps even rejecting the idea of love on a holiday for whatever reason. (Don’t throw tomatoes at me just yet!)
- The “Oh Crap I Forgot”: These are the guys (I mean…people…sorry to throw you under the bus, men!) who don’t plan in advance, and come to the florist overwhelmed on Valentine’s Day, hoping to find a bouquet worth giving. (And by the way, the best florists know you’re coming, and they’re ready for you on February 14!)
- The Galentine: Those that don’t love the day because perhaps they’re in a place where the day isn’t ready for them. These are the gals looking for community in friendship circles, not necessarily with a partner, and boy have the local businesses embraced them with Galentine’s Day events. Love your sisters!
- The “I Don’t Cares”: Whatever the reason, this is the “other” category of folks who just plain don’t care, and don’t participate in the festivities on February 14. Own it!
No matter what category you fall in, I hope you find a chuckle in there somewhere. Because the truth is, we all want to feel love, whether or not it’s on Valentine’s Day. I’m here to tell you that every day is a great day to tell someone you love them, and to show that in the best way you can. As we approach the commemorated “Day of Love,” allow us to invite you to show the love to those in your life by investing in local opportunities. There is a monumental list of small businesses in LaGrange County who would love to get you a gift card for your loved one. There are experiences to take your loved one to–like a concert and dinner, a local museum, or a hike on a park trail. There is a long list of restaurants who serve (SERIOUSLY) delicious food, right here in our hometowns, and they’re working on a great menu line-up for the busy weekend (and takeout is always an option too!). And we have an entire list of all of these on our website at www.lagrangechamber.org. Take a look!
This week, whether you’re prepared or not, look around and find a way to show some love by investing and shopping local. The opportunities to do so are endless, and it’s the week to send the love. After all, it’s better late than never, right? Happy Valentine’s Day!